tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post1949108154075224043..comments2023-09-28T02:11:49.595-07:00Comments on The New Journal of V's boy: A test? (part 2)vs-boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post-44827843991232349322010-02-18T23:49:03.342-08:002010-02-18T23:49:03.342-08:00I think that you are right to follow this route, s...I think that you are right to follow this route, some women may not be ready for a full on confession, much better to let her get used to your submission in ways and overtime that she feels comfortable with. As I have said this may lead to many frustrations for you, but I think you stand a much better chance of achieving a long term sucessful WLM if your wife enjoys and encourages your submission. The only way that she is going to do that is if she enjoys the type of attention that you want to give her. Firstly you need to work out together what that type of attention is, and then she needs to recognise and acknowledge her position of power, before she moves on to use it in ways that satisfy both your needsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post-13657478739129248452010-02-17T18:16:10.534-08:002010-02-17T18:16:10.534-08:00I realized that I was only getting frustrated more...I realized that I was only getting frustrated more and more by my inability to bring myself to open up to my wife.<br /><br />Deciding to take the longer route freed me of the stress of having to figure out how to "come out" and has helped me focus more on pleasing V. It has also given me a little of a better notion of how not ready she was to accept my full submission. Of course, I thought she would gladly accept my 'gift' but I had never set a solid base of encouraging her dominance and my sudden actions might have been disastrous.<br /><br />Now I feel like I'm on the right route, even though it may take longer, because I'm seeing some encouraging responses from her. Of course I'd like more, but I have to be patient and remember that even though I've had years to think of my submissive feelings, V is a newcomer to her role as dominant.<br /><br />As far as the answer that I gave her when she asked me if I had done anything for myself, I did try what whatevershesays says. (I had to go back and reread this last phrase)<br /><br />I think what I told her was that she had given me a specific way I could please her and that had made me happy because I knew she'd be pleased. She insisted in knowing if I had rested, or relaxed or somehow "enjoyed" my weekend. I don't think she's all the way there yet in understanding that her pleasure is my pleasure, but we're going in the right direction.<br /><br />today she made me listen to some music that I normally don't listen to and she said I had to do it because she 'said so'. <br /><br />I smiled and told her that of course I'd do it, because her energy was exciting to me. THen, while I was laying in bed, listening to her music, she came and lowered the zipper of her jeans in a bit of a sensual dance. <br /><br />When I smiled again, she said that she just had to go to the bathroom and that was her "going to the bathroom dance", and also her "I'm going to tease you" dance. Then she told me I was not "getting any" because she was busy and she left.<br /><br />Back in the day, before I recognized my submissive feelings, that would have upset me and I'd had probably tried to force her to have sex with me, but now, I just told her that she was beautiful and that she could tease me all day if she wanted because I loved it when she did.<br /><br />Later, when we were having dinner, she hugged me and told me that I was "so sweet" and that she loves me.<br /><br />Yes, the road may be long, but contrary to before, now it's pointing in the right direction.<br /><br />Oh, and about going down... She doesn't like it. She never lets me do it, although I've made it clear that I am not only willing, but eager to please her that way. I think I'll just have to let her be the one to decide whether she likes that type of attention or not.vs-boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post-49448666936033586232010-02-16T09:28:01.698-08:002010-02-16T09:28:01.698-08:00Glad you had a good day. Seems to me that when sh...Glad you had a good day. Seems to me that when she asked if you did anything for yourself you could have honestly answered, yes, "doing things for you or serving you, etc gives me great pleasure. <br /><br />then bite her neck and work you way...down :)!!whatevershesayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09984648048342682621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post-27652485697603295242010-02-15T08:41:55.779-08:002010-02-15T08:41:55.779-08:00Sounded like a very productive day, in more ways t...Sounded like a very productive day, in more ways than one. Anyone who pretends this is easy is either lying or very lucky, for now you have appeared to have chosen the more indirect route to a WLM, one that I also chose. I think that as long as you feel that things are progressing satisfactorily then this isn't necessarily a bad route to take, but it can be a very long route, extremely hard work, and at times unrewarding, but if you get where you want to be in the end, it will be worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com