tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post4835521006906238589..comments2023-09-28T02:11:49.595-07:00Comments on The New Journal of V's boy: Oh, what a fool I've been!!!!vs-boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post-3511920117639897722013-01-11T22:04:26.915-08:002013-01-11T22:04:26.915-08:00I checked your post and I think I agre with it.
R...I checked your post and I think I agre with it.<br /><br />Relationships are complicated, even without the extra layers we add to them.vs-boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post-15309206709285643462013-01-11T02:55:56.289-08:002013-01-11T02:55:56.289-08:00I haven't posted recently because one, I haven...I haven't posted recently because one, I haven't been motivated enough, two, not much has happened, and three, I have been reflecting on where we are, and what it means. I may just continue this theme as an entry on my blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post-83843371575890986732013-01-10T17:00:58.206-08:002013-01-10T17:00:58.206-08:00Could it be that we get so obsessed with getting t...Could it be that we get so obsessed with getting to our destination that we miss the road? Or to take the metaphor even further, could we miss the exit signs and keep going in circles, never arriving to a destination that has been within reach the whole time?<br /><br />I remember reading your posts and thinking that you had it going pretty good with Jane and wondering why would you ocassionally talk about not being "there" yet. Well, I just felt the same way reading my last year of posts. Why on Earth was I trying to arrive when I should have been enjoying the view?<br /><br />I think there is always the danger that you may arrive and realize that now you want to go farther, but that is entirelty another topic. For now, I'm more worried about whether it is too late to find a turn-around and go back to the exit I missed where more progress can be achieved. <br /><br />And yes. being the dominant is hard, especially if you are poor at verbalizing, like me.vs-boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04715617491485385267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8366278949397025018.post-38476581871391799102013-01-10T02:12:47.540-08:002013-01-10T02:12:47.540-08:00I'm not sure, as only you can really say, but ...I'm not sure, as only you can really say, but what you seem to be experiencing is that desire for things to be taken to the next level.<br /><br />I am in a similar position, although my "coming out" was or has never been that formal. Certainly not a lengthy conversation and the handing over of a book. Like you, I to have realised that maybe mine is more of a WLM than I had thought or appreciate until recently. Like you, however, I still desire Jane to take it to the next level.<br /><br />What worries me is how, and even if achieved, will the next level become my dream. Maybe our wives worry about this to, or maybe being the dominant partner is much harder work than we realise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com