I'm in Chastity!!!

"I need to  take a long, nice bath, said V getting up from the couch where we had been watching TV together. "After, we can talk about your, uh, metal toys. I need you to explain them to me, because I don't get it".

With  that, she went to the bathroom, leaving me hung up with surprise at the fact that she had been the one to breach the subject, We had not spoken about the device because our schedules had not allowed us time together for the past few days,

My mind was racing at top speed as I carefully considered how to frame my explanation, I decided to go in the direction of simplicity, and use the one rule I wrote about elsewhere. In case you have not read that article, here is the one rule:

THE ONE RULE

The male wants to earn an orgasm and is willing to do as much as he can to please his woman in order to earn it. The woman wants the male to strive for his orgasm and wants to delay it as much as possible to enjoy the benefits.

So, there I was, all ready and excited and horny (have not had sex in a while now) and my wife bringing the subject up.

After she finished in the bathroom, and it really took a long time, I joined her in the room. She was busy with stuff from work, and I waited... and waited.

When I felt that I was about to fall asleep, I asked her if she was almost done, to which she said no, and asked me if I needed anything.

"I thought you wanted to talk about my chastity,"I answered in as casual a voice as I could muster. 

"Oh, yes,"she said. asking me to wait one minute for her to finish something, and then asking, "So, explain this  game to me, I don't get it, What do you want to play?" 

"Well," I said. "It's simple, I want you to have control, and acknowledge that you have it, which you will do by locking me in the device and keeping control of the key. I want to have orgasms, and to treat you in a way that makes you want to get me out of the cage and let me have them."

Of course, when I was saying it, it didn't sound as clear as this, There were much hesitation, and circular conversation.

"I don't like it.., The marbles game was so much easier,"she said referring to the old chastity game we used to play. "In that game, I knew exactly what the rules were, and knew what to do, On this game, I'm not so sure. I'm not a gamer, so I can;t make rules up, so you have to give me something clearer than that,:

I paused, thinking that the opportunity was slipping through my fingers. What to say? What rules could I give her? If I control the game, than I'm not under her control, right?

"I think," I said after a long pause, "I'm going to have to think some more about it."

"Well," she said. "Maybe this will motivate you to think, The condition for the lock to be open is going to be that you give me a well thought set of clear rules for you to follow. You are going to be locked up until you give me that",

I gasped. I could not believe what I was hearing. I was going to be in chastity even though I had botched my opportunity to introduce it properly, and Miss V was making the decision!

I asked her if she wanted me to be locked right away and she said "Of course!"

"I really, really want you," I said. "Can I get a hand job before you lock me up?" 

She looked at me for an instant, and I knew she was considering it. She was on a trip and arrived in her cycle, so we have not been intimate for quite some time, but the moment didn't last, She smiled and said "No". 

"Maybe on Saturday," she said afterwards. 

We talked a little bot about logistics, about cleaning the device, about what to do in case of emergency (cut the lock) and about it being difficult to put on when aroused (which I was, very much) and then I went to take a shower. 

I struggled with the device but eventually managed to get into it, When I came out of the bathroom, holding it through my bathrobe, Miss V was sitting on the couch, so I walked there.

"The other way, mister,"she said. "Go to your room,"

I went to the room and she followed. Then she placed the lock on the device, and clicked it shut.

"Bye bye birdie,"she said kissing the key and putting it into her necklace. "You are going to be locked for a long time,"

So, here I am now, locked in chastity for the first time, leaking precum all over the place, with a bit if homework to do and wondering how it ends...

Miss V. Meets my Chastity Device

V is back from her travels, and I introduced her to the chastity device today.

I was waiting to introduce it to her AFTER we had sex, but she had some information to share with me that made me change my mind: She is on her period.

So, there was not much time, because after we cuddled in bed for a bit and I was kissing her belly and over her panties she told me she had to go. There will be more talking about this, she said, but at least they 'met' each other. 

Here is how the conversation went:

ME: "Well. I was waiting to tell you after we had sex, but since we are NOT going to have sex, I might as well tell you now."

HER: (applying her makeup in front of the mirror) What is it, honey?

ME: "While you were gone, my Christmas gift finally arrived"

HER: (looking around) "What did you get?"

ME: "It's a chastity belt" 

HER: "What? I'm not gonna wear it!"

ME: "I know, it's for me!"

HER: "Well, YOU can wear it, but I'm NOT going to wear it!"

ME: "No, you can't wear it. It is a cage, It holds to the penis."

HER: "Oh, OK then."

ME: "Do you want to see it?"

HER: "Only if you can hurry, I need to go." 

ME: (handing her the lock with the two tiny keys) "Here, hold this."

HER: (puts the lock on her necklace and locks it) 

ME: (grabbing the pouch from the bedside table and bringing the device out) "I actually need the lock. This is the ring, and this is the tube. The ring goes behind the balls and the tube needs to be locked to  hold in place."

HER: (taking the lock off her necklace again) "Of course the lock is for you! What am I thinking?"

ME: (Assembling the chastity device in my hand, there is no way I can put myself into it at this point, since I had a throbbing erection) "So, this is how it goes." 

HER: "This is so funny! Here," (hands me the keys) "keep it together. I don't want to lose it. I don't understand the game, but I'm game. I actually think it is kind of cute, but I don't have time right now. I have to go."  

Well, after that, she finished getting ready, and left.

Now, I'm here, so happy that I finally presented her with the device and wondering what on earth was so scary that kept me from doing this a ling time ago. I should be aware by now that the way to approach V with kink is when sex is NOT on the table and when we are both relaxed and playful. Every time I have done it, she has gone with it, but usually, when I ask for kink during sex or when approaching sex, she does not feel too excited about it.

I'm sure we are going to be talking about it later, and her reaction of trying to put the lock on her necklace right away tells me that she will hold my key without a problem. 

This is a golden opportunity that I can't let go to waste, but I'm not 100% sure on how to handle. I think it is best to leave it open as in "Let's run a trial and talk about some more later" so we can address any issues. I don't want to get stuck in a set of rules that is not optimal for both of us, 

Any suggestions will be appreciated, although I don't know how much time I'll have before I have to discuss it with V (maybe tonight,if I don't fall asleep before she gets here).

Wish me luck.

My New Chastity Device: Initial Impressions

Well, My new chastity device is here. It arrived today at my work office. Here are my thoughts about it.

The Seller's Name Matters

Warning: Even though the seller says that they will ship on discreet packaging, when you order through Amazon, the name of the seller will appear as the sender, so if you have a choice between buying from "Ultra Kinky Sexual Aids" (I'm making the names up) and "Cortex Labs" I'd recommend going with the second.

The postal service dropped it in front of the door last night (why do they even deliver to an office building at 8pm?) and when I arrived this morning it was on the front desk. There is no way of knowing how many of my coworkers saw the darned thing, with the explicit seller name as the sender.

That said, I dropped the box in my desk drawer and waited for my break to open it.

OMG This Thing is Big and Heavy! 

The device arrived in a cardboard box, and inside it was sealed in a white plastic bag. When I opened the box and hefted the device It seemed too heavy for me, but then I realized that I had ordered a device with 3 rings, so there was additional weigh in the bag that I would not have to hang from mine.

I also thought is was bigger than it really was, because of the wrapping material. Once I uncovered the whole thing and remembered that the ring goes BEHIND the scrotum, I realized the size was OK.

No Way this is Stainless Steel

It is chrome plated. I don't think someone would build something out of stainless steel and then chrome plate it. Of course, I paid for a cheap device, so even though it said stainless steel in the description, I had no illusion. The question is whether it will rust. It will be answered soon enough.

At least there are no rough edges to it. I made use of that by rubbing it inside and out with my finger before even thinking of getting it closer to any sensitive body parts.

Here is an image of it. The ring pictured is the 1.75 inches one. It also has a 1.5 and 2.0 inches (diameter)

Trying It On

So, I could not help but trying it. I was on break, so I brought some alcohol from the first aid station to clean it. It said on the description that all stainless steel devices need to be sterilized by boiling or with alcohol before use. I though it a sound idea, and since I didn't want anyone catching me cooking a metal device in the kitchen, the choice for alcohol was made.

I went to the bathroom and tried to install the 1.5 ring. It was way too small. I then brought the 1.75 and it went in. Like the instructions online said, since it is a solid ring, you have to let your little friends in one at a time. Fortunately I had read that somewhere, because otherwise I'd have thought that the device was built for hobbits... Although I don't know about those hobbits - They have large feet.

Once the ring was in, it was time to go inside the tube (or series of rings). This proved to be more of a challenge because no matter how flaccid I was to begin with, as soon as the tube toughed me there was some growth involved. I discovered that you don;t need to be erect to be unable to enter the tube. As long as you are not completely flaccid, you are not going in. I was fortunate that someone else entered the bathroom stall next to mine. I don;t know why, but all biological functions seem to halt in the presence of neighbors. I took advantage of the shrinkage to slip into the tube undetected, 

This is one of those models that need to be locked to hold in place, so I locked it.

Observations

• It doesn't show through my work clothes. I need to check when wearing jeans to see.
• It feels as if it is going to fall, but it doesn't
• It is not as heavy as I thought would be, I wore it for 4 hours and it didn't bother. I need to test it for longer periods of time.
• It's very hard to pee while wearing it. The hole in the front is too small. My "eye" is as big. I ended up pulling back a little and peeing from one of the side windows. This could be a problem if I'm wearing it overnight, because I usually wake up with morning wood, and will not be able to pull to the side. This will need to be studied further.
• It is easy to take off. One you unlock it, you slide off it easily. The ring stays, but it takes an easy tug and twist motion to get it out.
• You cannot leave the ring on for sex. The spike that holds the lock protrudes in a very inconvenient place, so when released, you have to remove the ring as well.

The plan

I need to introduce it to Miss V before I can continue testing. She knew I wanted one, and I'm hoping to be able to reach some type of arrangement that is not cumbersome to her. I will tell her that I have it but that I need to test it and iron all the kinks (is that the word for this?) before I ask her to hold the key. My wife is going on a trip in January, so i will have time to test it for several days and nights before she returns. By the time she gets back, I should know how to use it and have an idea of its limitations. My goal then, is to hand the keys over when she returns from her trip.

Well, that's it for now. I have homework to do. I will post something more in the near future. 

Coming Soon...

I went ahead and bought this:

Yes, It's a cheap one, but it is for experimentation and I can't afford to drop a lot of money for a  better product. Another factor in choosing this one was that it comes with 3 different rings, so I have a better chance to fit.

It says that it is made of stainless steel, but I honestly don't think that's the case. I guess I'll see those stains pretty soon, if there are any.

This should arrive before Christmas, according to the tracking number.

My intention is to show it to Miss V on Christmas Day and start using it, but to keep the key with me until I'm sure of a proper fit. Later, I'll hand her the key and the lock, and ask her to lock it up.  I shiver when I think of the sound of the lock clicking shut.

Evidently, I'll have to discuss a few things with V first. Her concerns before had been few, and I present them in the order she mentioned them to me.

• She did not want to buy it herself (the first thing out of her mouth when I asked her for one was "can't you buy it yourself?"
• Why metal? She was wondering if it would be too hard, if it will hurt or if it is too ugly. I talked to her about plastic and silicone, and I think she understood why I wanted metal.
• What would happen if we are separated too long. She asked me what would happen if I am locked and she goes away for the week. I don't think I was too successful at explaining this one, but we need to agree on the use of an emergency lock, obviously, because I need to be able to unlock if there is an emergency, I think this will only become an issue with extended use, and not if the device only sees limited use, as I see it.

Well, the worst thing that can happen is that she decides that she hates the thing and rejects it outright. I think she has given me implicit consent to get one, and there will not be any major trouble other than an unused cheap chastity device.

The other "bad"thing that could happen is that she likes it too much and I become a long term user... I qualify that because I have this fantasy, but have never experienced the reality of it, so it may be different. 

I might post a first impressions review when I receive the package (depending on whether I think there is anything interesting to say), and probably a post describing the testing phase. If I get locked up by V, I'll definitely post about that.

Wish me luck...

On another note, There is a new post in the Victoria's Playground blog. It is called Victoria's Gift to Me and discusses part of what the dominant woman brings to the table in my version of a Male Chastity Relationship.  

So far, there has not been much interest or activity on that blog, but I'm `planning to keep working on it for a while at least, because it is helping me put together my thoughts about this subject.   

A Little Down, a Little Confused

I have not had sex in almost a month now.

No, it's not a period od denial. it's just no sex. I told my wife that I needed some and she told me that I liked not getting any... Have I given her the wrong impression?

I have been cranky, lazy, rude, innattentive, have been eating too much, watching porn, masturbating, talking back to my wife... You get the idea.  In short, if I had decided to do everything possible to not to follow my own advice, this is how I'd behave.

I have no excuse other than to admit that I am a jerk that needs to be controlled externally. For years I thought that I wanted it, and now, after having tasted some of it, as little as it was, I realized that I need it. To try to remember my goals and my feelings, I'm working on the new blog. I made two new posts:

The One Rule
What I can give to Victoria

Today, when I arrived I tried to kiss my wife and she didn't let me at first because I was too cold (coming from outside as I was) so she blew on my lips before kissing me very lightly. Then she blew on my ears, one at a time and told me "You just got a blow job".  Sadly I could not answer that I wanted a real one because my daughter was right there. My wife's timing was perfect. SHe gets to say something and by the time I react, we are in public.

Now she's gone again, and I'm alone (with the internet), I have not masturbated for 48 hours. I feel like a loser, but I don't think that wallowing in my misery is going to make things better.

When I first asked V to exercise orgasm control on me it was with the excuse that I needed encouragement to lose weight. Perhaps I can pull it off again, but I don't know.  She has no problem saying no anymore, which is what I wanted, but now she doesn't tease.

How do I explain this?

I need the tease to proviode the energy to do what I need to do...

To be continued.

New Blog: Victoria's Playground

I've started a new blog called Victoria's Playground where I'm going to share my vision of male chastity and orgasm denial in the form of games couples can play. I base the blog in my own (very limited) experiences with Miss V (the Victoria from the title), on my interpretation of female domination literature (books, websites and blogs) and sure, why not a little bit of make-a-wish fantasy,

I think that it will give me a medium to share my thoughts in a format different that the "I wanted this, but she did that ... wah wah..." that this blog has become.  

Victoria's playground will be a work of theory and games, with no accounts of my experiences. The recollection of my attempts (or should I call them my failures?) in trying to achieve some semblance of a FLR will continue to be in this blog.

A new blog by V's Boy

You can reach Victoria's Playground by clicking HERE or by entering the following address in your web browser: http://victoriaplays.blogspot.com/

My hope in writing the new blog is to help me articulate what I really want out of orgasm control and male chastity and perhaps one day to let Miss V. Read it. For that reason there will be no recounting of my sexual experiences with her, or anything that could endanger our privacy. For that reason, comments on Victoria's Playground, if there are any,  will be moderated.

As of right now, there is only one post in Victoria's Playground. Here is a direct link, in case you want it: The Simple Game of Orgasm Control.

Go check it out, if that's your cup of tea, and let me know what you think.

Trade failed... Don't know what to do.

Didn't work.

V did not want to give me a hand job. She wanted "regular sex" even though she medically should not be doing it.

We did it, even though I didn't want to and didn't want to hurt her. She said she was all right but she was showing signs of pain later, when she thought I was not watching.

I don't know what to do.

She is too young, and too hot to not be able to enjoy herself.

If she liked oral sex, I could please her, but she doesn't.

I don't know what to do.

From mild denial we have gone to no sex at all, and I have fallen back into my old lazy, masturbatory ways.

And I feel bad about it.